Silver Hair Transition Stories / November 17, 2019

Jen Smith’s Silver Hair Adventure

How Jen Smith transformed herself into @silverfox40tales, a silver-haired Instagram sensation! Jen is 46 and lives in Wisconsin, USA.

I was a sophomore in college when I first noticed my greys popping…. I looked closely at them in the mirror because I couldn’t figure out what they actually were!

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Jen with dark hair

Up until then, it was not a big deal for me to frequently change the color of my hair.

Just for added effect, lighter highlights for summer and darker and shinier for winter, right? 

Coloring my greys was a fun thing to do!

I was blessed with a thick head of hair and I have always received compliments on it. 

It was definitely the one thing about myself that I truly felt confident about. 

My friends never thought twice about me coloring my hair because I was diligent at keeping all those greys covered! They actually didn’t believe me when I told them how grey I was under all that color…. I guess I sure showed them, LOL!

I finally made the decision to transition to grey while I was on vacation in the Florida Keys.

Inevitably, I would book an appointment with my sister (she is my stylist) a prompt 24 hours or less before we left town, and then I’d pack a box dye to apply just in case my silvers started to peek out. 

My roots would typically show themselves one week after my root job. 

I colored every two to three weeks and used root concealer in-between.  I always said I wouldn’t let myself go grey until I was really old!!!

FINDING GREY HAIR INSPIRATION ONLINE

Like so many, I love to scan Pinterest for inspiration and then later discovered so many interesting things on Instagram

I am not sure what prompted me to begin to look for grey hair inspiration on these platforms, but once I did, I asked myself ….. “Why couldn’t I do this”? I saw people who were not grey make the choice to dye their hair grey.

At the same time, I started experiencing intense scalp itching after coloring and would even take Zyrtec or Benadryl to combat it. 

That’s when I said “enough!”

MY TRANSITION TO GREY

February 2018: My transition was not an easy one because, by the time I decided to quit coloring, my hair was nearly black. 

So, my sister (the stylist) and I began with some highlights to try to soften and blend the greys.  What I quickly learned is that there is no easy or quick approach to this and that my naturally dry brunette hair may not withstand lightening it to grey or white. 

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Jen and her sister – Feb. 2018

Do you know how many colors are actually in dark hair dye?  A LOT! 

So, with my sister’s blessing, I sought out a color specialist and she agreed to help me give it a go.

At my first appointment, I was in her chair for over 5 hours and she had 3 people working on my hair at the same time.  When I was done with this session my hair was mostly blonde.

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1st color removal process
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2nd color removal process

Another thing I learned is the yellow dye color in the dark hair dye is virtually impossible to lift to a cool tone color which is what natural grey/silver hair is. 

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April 2018: Embracing my greys and the spring weather with my 14 year old Corgi Rosie

I went to the color specialist religiously about every 8 weeks up until September 2018 and she continued to lighten and blend my demarcation line as it grew.  I am grateful for her help. 

As much as I did not want to at the time, now I see the value in just going cold turkey (letting the grays grow in naturally, instead of coloring to get to blend the new growth with the old dyed hair). 

Instead, I wound up having to cut most of my length off due to breakage. The lightening was so hard on my hair. 

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“December of 2018- the big chop! I had to get rid of all my length, it was just too brittle and breaking.”

Both of my stylists were excellent and did exactly what I asked of them, but hair typically can only take so much. 

So now here I am 18 months in and about 10 months completely dye-free. I am still not completely done transitioning.  I have just a few inches, mostly in the back, of old color left hanging on for dear life. 

I always knew my hair grew fast but when you want it to grow, it seems to grow at a snail’s pace.

I am not going to lie; I had some tears along the way and frantic calls to my sister for help to find products that would help but…… I am so entirely happy that I stuck with it. 

My entire family, my husband of 23 years and my 2 kids, were incredibly supportive and often reminded me how beautiful I was throughout my transition. 

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My supportive husband September 2018 after my last color and cut. After this appointment, I felt like I went backwards a bit because we were adding in color to blend but it felt like it would take even longer to be done … so I said no more blending!! I’m going completely dye and bleach free!!

Overall, I have not had too many naysayers mostly just the usual “I could never do that” type of responses. 

I cannot remember what prompted me to share my journey on Instagram, I think it had something with me not being able to back out of it, but I have found such incredible support from some wonderful people. 

I can honestly say I have had no haters and if I did…. I would give them zero energy 😊

** Please Note:  This post contains affiliate links.  I only link to products that I personally like or that have been recommended to me by my silver sisters.  You can see my full policy here.**

MY CURRENT PRODUCTS

For shampoo, I use Matrix Total Results Clarifying Shampoo to strip off product buildup. I alternate that with either Matrix So Silver or, if I need to reduce brassy yellow tones, Redken Color Extend Graydiant shampoo

I use the Matrix Brass Off Mask for extra toning and I use the Amika The Kure for deep conditioning. A girl has to have options right?😊

I use Amika’s Bust Your Brass Violet Leave-In Treatment to help with toning the brassiness leftover from the old color.

For styling, I use Redken’s Frizz Dismiss Rebel Tame because it smooths my coarse locks and is also a great heat protectant. 

I’m bit addicted to Sexy Hair Smooth Smooth and Seal – it gives beautiful shine

I haven’t yet explored switching over to more natural hair products but I am entirely open to that and hope to continue to learn about it.

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I have tried a lot of different products and I am excited to share that I can now direct followers where to get the same products on Amazon as I am an #amazoninfluencer (NO WAY!!) ….that still seems crazy to me!

Alongside this journey, I have decided to try to begin to reduce chemicals in other areas of my life, and this is when I discovered Beauty Counter.  I have since been exploring and using their products so I decided to sign on as a consultant. 

I love their investment in the idea that beauty should not be harmful to you. 

FINAL THOUGHTS

I am so grateful for all the love and support I have received from the community of silver sisters on Instagram.

I do believe that this process is a very personal choice and I would never judge anyone else who makes the decision to dye their hair or is just not ready to go grey. 

I love finding and providing inspiration to anyone who needs it, either to support their decision on going grey or to help them through the process. 

Please do me a favor and share this post to social media, as it helps me grow my audience and spread the word about our Silver Revolution!  And remember to subscribe to my YouTube Channel and Pinterest Feed for more gray hair tips and product recommendations. Thanks!

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14 Comments

  1. Denise Smith

    Thank you for your inspiring story. I am 52 y.o. and soooo tired of dying, stretching, bleaching, and everything else that I could do to hide my grays. But, I think I am at a point in my life that I feel very confident about it. At 51, I decided to go back to school and become a nurse (perfect time with kids), and I think that reading inspiring stories like yours give us, the ones that are still thinking about transitioning, more power to do. You look beautiful with natural hair, you made the right decision. (My mom at 72 still coloring her hair, and she is not a gray hair fan, but I am not my mom)
    🙂
    Best wishes, Denise

    22 . Sep . 2019 Reply
  2. Rhonda

    Yay! Way to brave into your gray! Your story and mine are very similar. I can’t believe how free I feel not being tied down to root coloring every 2-3 weeks. Have fun with your new you.

    08 . Sep . 2019 Reply
  3. Andrea Aguirre

    Thank you for sharing it inspires me! I started my journey 4weeks ago. I am going to try to do it cold turkey but nit sure !! I don’t want to hurt my hair. I got a cute cut to somehow mask tge current fox line and so when I look at it am like”hair looks good despite the fox line!!” Lol
    Tx you again
    Andrea A

    04 . Sep . 2019 Reply
  4. Leta Delcourt

    Jen, Thank you for sharing your transition story. I am 6 months into my cold turkey transition and was beginning to consider finding a colorist to do the gray blending. But you are so right, hair can only take so much and I realized that I am not willing to risk any more damage. Your hair is beautiful even with the left over dyed hair. I am thankful that I have a couple of people at work that are complimenting me as my silver and salt and pepper are coming in. My husband was not full on board with my decision at first but he tells me now that it is looking better than he thought it would. Thanks Katie for your inspiration as well!

    04 . Aug . 2019 Reply
    • Katie

      You’re welcome, Leta! I’m glad that your husband is now on board and that your coworkers are being supportive. It makes all the difference 🙂

      04 . Aug . 2019 Reply
  5. Carolyn

    Definitely worth it. Your hair is beautiful and you look fantastic!

    31 . Jul . 2019 Reply
  6. Charlene

    Very inspirational! I just started my journey two days ago and donated 12 inches of hair to children with hair loss organization to make the process a little easier.

    26 . Jul . 2019 Reply
    • Katie

      That’s a great idea, Charlene!

      28 . Jul . 2019 Reply
  7. Cathy Oaks

    WOW!!! You look incredible! Really stunning with your gray hair. I’m beginning my journey now. It’s been only four weeks since my last salon dye job. I’m going cold turkey. My hair has natural curl, so, I know all of the processing will be horrible for it. I’m dark brown. I’m determined to make it through. Fingers crossed🤞🤞. Thanks for sharing your journey!

    24 . Jul . 2019 Reply
    • Katie

      Good luck, Cathy! It’s a surprisingly fun journey.

      28 . Jul . 2019 Reply
  8. Lori Soderberg

    It looks amazing Jen, I love it!

    19 . Jul . 2019 Reply
    • Jen Smith

      Thanks Lori♥️

      21 . Jul . 2019 Reply
  9. Carmen vinje

    Your beautiful my friend. Love your story and I love the grey on you. I’m heading down that path, and am hanging on right now to coloring my hair every 4 weeks. Ugh I’m so scared.

    19 . Jul . 2019 Reply
    • Jen Smith

      Hey Carmen! Thanks so much❤️ You will know when the time is right for you, or you just decide and jump! It was not always easy but I am soooooo glad I stuck with it. I’m here for you if you need anything❤️

      19 . Jul . 2019 Reply

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Katie

Katie is the founder of Katie Goes Platinum. After constantly dyeing her hair for over 25 years, in 2018 Katie decided to stop the madness and embrace the gray. Since then, she’s been sharing her favorite gray hair tips, resources, and stories to empower women to feel beautiful during and after their transition to gray hair.