I noticed my first gray in my early 20’s! I felt embarrassed and wanted to cover it up immediately.
I recently calculated that I spent over $40,000 in just hair color alone. It never even occurred to me what my natural hair color was. It was ingrained in me to cover it up, regardless of the money and time wasted.
I’m 53 now, so I guess nearly 30 years.
I went to the salon every 6-8 weeks and did a box root touch-up between salon visits. I would never have dreamed of showing my silvers.
I worked with a colorist. She was fantastic. I had about five inches grown out, so she put foils all over my hair and bleached it and toned it, and 10 hours later, I walked out of there.
I had all this red and orange color on the ends, and all this dark and silver coming in because my hair is really dark in some places and really light in other places. When I had the orange, it looked terrible.
My husband encouraged me every step of the way.
Some of my best friends, not so much. Some friends my age and older were horrified and just knew I would cave in and dye it! But my younger friends were HUGE supporters.
Yeah. Hair is such a part of your identity. There’s a whole lot of psychological stuff wrapped up in our hair, so don’t ever feel bad about being concerned about your hair. It’s probably one of the first things you notice about somebody, don’t you think?
I’m obsessed with this Fanola No Yellow purple shampoo, but you need to wear gloves, for sure! I learned the hard way. Yes. It totally stained my hands.
I think I’ve become more confident in making decisions on my own and vetting out a few toxic people in my life. I spend my time with my closest loves and try not to worry about what people think all the time.